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My deepest condolences to the Heikes family. Kay had such a contagious smile and was such a joy with her quick wit and insightful mind.
In His name,
Amy Wright (LaRocco)
~ Amy Wright (LaRocco) - June 26, 2022
Joe,
I’m sorry to learn of your loss. May you feel surrounded by love and healing as you grieve.
Melinda LaRue Merschel
~ Melinda Merschel - June 23, 2022
I like to think the ones that make the biggest eternal impact get called home early. I know God told Kay, well done good and faithful servant.
I only have a handful of short interactions with Kay but everyone of those will leave an impact on me. The first time, we had taken in two foster kiddos and we were struggling. Struggling is an understatement. We went to a support group that she was leading with Mitzi. She had so many bits of wisdom and encouragement that still means so much to me now. I have also attended the foster/adoptive conference held every February by Westside. I am so thankful for her heart and commitment to encourage those around her. know I’m not the only life that Kay has touched. My heart aches for her family. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I will never forget her. Every time we take in a placement her words of wisdom come flooding back.
~ Cacey Blackburn - June 21, 2022
Dear Joe,
I’m not even sure the words to say. Your wife was loved and loved so many of us so well. Truly a gift from God. I always cherish the summers I had with Kay at Camp Ozark. What an encouragement she was to me.
Her service was beautiful yesterday. It was honoring to Christ and to Kay. Please know you and your kids are in our prayers
John Fitch
~ John Fitch - June 21, 2022
What a wonderful service last night. Every speaker did a great job of sharing the attributes and beauty of Kay. Joe, your love letter to Kay was beautiful and I know was smiling and is waiting for you. In 2009, a little before and after, Kay was a mentor to me. She walked me through studying the Bible and actually was the first to introduce me to the writings of John Piper. Those I have passed on to Sam, who reads all his stuff!! The descriptions of Kay last night were just spot on. She had a fierce loyalty and great enthusiasm for Christ. When I asked Kay to disciple me, I was in a season of my life where my 2 oldest (of 4) were teenagers and life was going in a trajectory that I wasn't sure I was equipped to handle. Kay always had wisdom and kindness to lead me in the right direction, to the Cross. Towards the end of our consistent meeting together, she and Joe adopted Lulit. What a whirlwind time for Kay, entering back into the toddler years while navigating the beginning of the teen years. I admired her energy and determination. Life pulled us in different directions, and yet intersected us at different times since then. I looked through my texts over the past 3 years and we tried to get together 3 or 4 times and for one reason or another, could not make it work. The most recent being when she reached out to me about 3 weeks ago. Oh how I regret that. But our time of regularly meeting is still having an impact on me, on my kids. For that I will always thank my God for connecting us. Joe, Wyatt, Josiah, Cade& Lulit, you will continue to be in my prayers as you go about your lives and navigate your new normal. My prayer for you is a "Kintsugi" heart. The legacy of your wife and Mama will live on through your witness of the power of the Cross! God Bless~
~ Rachel Heidrick - June 21, 2022
I was not able to be at the funeral today but you have all been on my heart and in my prayers these last days. I loved Kay; her zest for life and her family and adoption and healthy families and definitely for Jesus were all such examples to me. Every conversation I ever had with her was encouraging or educational or challenging me in my faith. What a legacy and I'm so glad to have known her!
~ Dee Dee Strong - June 20, 2022
I first met Kay at the Holiday Inn in Lawrence I was working at. It was my first year at KU after moving here from Oklahoma. She told me about Camp Ozark which I later ended up working at for three or four years. We became good friends over the years. Later when my wife Diana and I were first married, we stayed in Kay and Joes townhome while they were away for the summer. Diana and Kay became good friends too and our kids grew up together like cousins. But life gets in the way, and we all had our busy lives so we did not see each other as much as we would have liked. But when we did, it was like time stood still. We all love Kay and will miss her very much. But we all know where she is now. With her big infectious smile.
~ Greg Seamon - June 20, 2022
I have several wonderful memories of Kay but none more profound than our time with FCA. She was truly a person who lit up the room every time she entered. Even after a tough practice, I don't think I ever saw Kay without a smile. But it wasn't just how she looked, it was how she made you feel. She was two years older than me, but she never made me feel small or insignificant. My heartfelt sympathies to the whole family.
~ Cherri Harms (Sager) - June 20, 2022
Kay I can not believe you are gone!!
I had so much plan to spend time with you.
You are a true inspire! I got a chance to work with you at Little Blessings and you motivated me to become a counselor that I am now! You were one of the reason I wanted to pursue being a therapist for children!
You were more than a co-worker, you were a mentor and a friend to me. Thank you for letting me spend time with LuLit to take her to parks and bread her hair. thank you for inviting me to have dinner with your family couple of
Times. Thank you for inviting me for 3 days trip to a Liberty to serve kids in foster care. Until today I never forget the impact it has on my life! It was the best day of my life and I will never forget it!
Kay, You bare witness of Christ in you and I'm so thankful I got to know you!
I love you! You are with Jesus now and will see you in heaven!!
Kali Bekele
~ Kali Bekele - June 20, 2022
Kay and I were co-counselors at Camp Ozark during our college years. Every 50’s Night we would dress up, I as a nerd and Kay as a cool kid. This was especially funny to us because she often referred to herself as a nerd. We were partners in every way at Ozark and beyond. I have always considered her my best friend of a lifetime. Even when we hadn’t spoken for a while, we could instantly reconnect and delve into the deep issues of faith and family. We brought out the best in each other and the hole in my heart is deep! I cannot wait for our heavenly reunion where we will both bow before the throne of God as Jesus nerds. I love you with an everlasting love my dearest Kay.
~ Amy Sue Monk - June 20, 2022
Kay was an amazing person, strong, independent, and had an amazing drive. She accomplished so much in the time she had here with us. She supported so many people in so many ways and was such a wonderful friend to my mother. She was a mother of 4 kids that I grew up with my entire childhood, and we love the Hiekes family dearly. We played freeze tag in the yard after school while her and my mom would laugh and swap life stories. Kay was an upbeat, wise, caring person that could always make us laugh and always knew exactly what to say. She could make you feel better about anything and could always give you the words you needed to properly handle a hard life situation. She had a beautiful soul inside and out. She will be missed forever by our family.
~ Sydney Albrecht - June 20, 2022
Kay was one of those rare gems that was comfortable going deep in conversation, at a soul-level, very quickly. She was very genuine, and I will miss the conversations, her quick laugh, and her inner light. She was a fierce advocate for those she loved, and I am heartbroken for your loss.
~ Joanne Hughes - June 20, 2022
Joe and family, I'm so sorry for your loss, my deepest condolences. I will always remember her sweet smile and our wonderful memories. She was a angel, God sure gained a angel!
~ Sonia Balderas - June 19, 2022
David and family, I am so sorry for the loss of your sister, Kay. She was a lovely lady and contributed a lot of good to this world. May she rest in peace. Praying for your peace of heart and sending my sympathy to your family.
Your neighbor, Susan Nealy
~ Susan Nealy - June 19, 2022
Kay radiated a sincere compassion for the human condition at the level of each person's personal journey. As one of her cousins, I knew her growing up as someone between the ages of me and my sister. We shared adventures on summer vacation trips to Kansas and Green Mountain Falls, Colorado. However I really got to know her as an adult, perhaps in our 30s. Her thoughtful heart-felt acknowledgement of the person in front of her gave me the sense of being seen and understood in her presence even though our worlds were very different. She genuinely believed in each person making their own choices even when her values might differ from theirs, which made all conversations with her feel completely free from any kind of judgement. Even though our paths only crossed ever few years at family events, I felt like we could drop into a real conversation about life's ups and downs immediately after saying "hello." The world is a tiny bit dimmer without her bright light bringing optimism and advocacy to people's lives.
~ Paul King - June 19, 2022
Kay’s dedication to the the Lord, her family and the variety of ministries she has been a part of over the years have made a lasting impact on me and so many others. Kay had a generous heart with a desire to give away her time and her talents to bless others. We will really miss her. May the Lord continue to bless her family. We are so thankful for the years we had together at Cambridge Church.
~ Janine Fowler - June 19, 2022
Kay... intelligent, curious, answer-seeking, yet always faithful. Her beauty radiated in her interactions with others. She was full of compassion and always had a smile that let you know you mattered. She was my cousin and dear friend. Though we did not see each other regularly, whenever our paths crossed, it was like a day hadn't passed. As a young adult, she helped guide me on a spiritual journey... something for which I will be forever grateful. Her ability to connect with people (myself included) was a rare gift. The world was a brighter, better place with her in it. I know you are at peace Kay, but I will miss you terribly.
~ Jenny King Rischling - June 19, 2022
Kay. We simply just loved her. She will be missed beyond any words we can write at this time. We love her family and promise Kay to be by their sides today and down the road. The Lord is her Shepherd and her family’s and ours. We are so grateful for that blessed reassurance.
~ Todd and Laura Hildreth - June 19, 2022
I am so very sorry for your loss. Kay I know loved you kids like crazy and fought hard to seek God's wisdom in helping you to be who you were created to be. I so respect her work as a therapist and always made sure I listened to her talks at ReConference as they made HUGE changes in me. They gave me hope and direction in the kids we adopted through foster care. What a wonderful imprint she has left on me and so many others. I know she is having the time of her life in heaven AND I cannot image the heartache you are feeling with her absence.
~ Kori Bohn - June 18, 2022
Words cannot express how sorry we are for your loss. Kay had such an incredible impact on our lives. We have 4 children, the youngest adopted from China. Kay was the first counselor that we sought in our lives and we were so blessed to receive her wisdom for several years. She taught us so much, but I think most of all she taught us that it is okay to ask for help. Thank you Kay for all you've done for us and countless others. Prayers for all mourning this tragic loss.
~ Nathan Gronberg - June 18, 2022
In all of our foster care experiences, Kay's light shined the brightest! Her personal testimonies, encouragement, and affirmations gave us light in the midst of a dark tunnel. I am very grieved and feel the incredible loss on this side of heaven. God help us all as we transition, may His incredible love fill our void and mend our broken hearts. We rejoice in all that she imparted into each of our lives!
~ Julie Dreasher - June 18, 2022
In all of our foster care experiences, Kay's light shined the brightest? Her personal testimonies, encouragement, and affirmations gave us light in the midst of a dark tunnel. I am very grieved and feel the incredible loss on this side of heaven. God help us all as we transition, may His incredible love fill our void and mend our broken hearts. We rejoice in all that she imparted into each of our lives?
~ Julie Dreasher - June 18, 2022
Kay was a strong woman who I’ve looked up to all my life. Gentle wisdom with a compassionate heart - she was a core member of our family whose influence and presence will be dearly missed. She came to me often to talk about her sons, who she loved more than anything. She celebrated their achievements, confided in me with her motherly concerns and sought my advice as someone she hoped they could look up to. Kay saw things in me and my family that she admired, and never failed to tell me each time we were together. I love her, I will miss her, and I will never forget how she made me feel. I will strive to be the role model she knew I could be. To Joe, Wyatt, Josiah, Cade, and Lulit - you are surrounded by people who love you and carry Kay’s memory in their hearts. I love you all, and I’m so sorry for your loss.
~ Korab Eland - June 17, 2022
Heartbroken doesn't begin to scratch the surface.... Kay was one of those people you meet who you just instantly connect with. Her passion as a mother, her voice as a seasoned mental health professional, her compassionate soul as a fierce messenger of God's Word...ughhh, I'm just at a loss. I know God's plan is perfectly ordered... this one just stings. Joe-our thoughts, prayers and broken hearts are extended to you and the kiddos in this unfathomable time. Praying for peace beyond understanding.... The Canady family.
~ Kristene Canady - June 17, 2022
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. We can’t imagine your pain but pray for God’s comfort and help.
Sincerely,
Steve and Patta Dietz
Formerly of Hoxie
~ Steve and Patta Dietz - June 17, 2022
Kay was a strong woman who I’ve looked up to all my life. Gentle wisdom with a compassionate heart - she was a core member of our family whose influence and presence will be dearly missed. She came to me often to talk about her sons, who she loved more than anything. She celebrated their achievements, confided in me with her motherly concerns and sought my advice as someone she hoped they could look up to. Kay saw things in me and my family that she admired, and never failed to tell me each time we were together. I love her, I will miss her, and I will never forget how she made me feel. I will strive to be the role model she knew I could be. To Joe, Wyatt, Josiah, Cade, and Lulit - you are surrounded by people who love you and carry Kay’s memory in their hearts. I love you all, and I’m so sorry for your loss.
~ Korab Eland - June 17, 2022
A hilarious memory that me and Lulit still laugh about today is when Mrs. Kay took us to the mall and we were walking out and about to leave and one of the stores had a sales person trying to get people in the store. He asked Mrs Kay if she wanted a free sample of something and then he was like just come in the store. So we sat there for almost 30 minutes watching the sales man put "magical under eye cream" on her face and me and Lulit were just laughing the whole time wondering it it was actually going to work. He brought up the prices and she gave us the "HECK NO" look but was very nice to the guy. When we left the store me and Lulit were so confused why she said yes to going in there and she said that she normally does but she had nothing better to do. I always had fun when I was with Mrs Kay and I will miss her so much. -Maddy
~ Maddy Kelley - June 16, 2022
For the last six months, I have had the honor of sharing Tuesday mornings with Kay. she asked me to work with her with a long time family she has been working with. Anyone else would’ve asked me, I would have said no but because of the honor I received in her asking and the opportunity I had to learn from her, I jumped at the opportunity. It was such a joy to hear about her family, her beautiful granddaughter, her son‘s up-and-coming adventure overseas, and her son‘s up-and-coming wedding. She kept going back to how God is going to be using Cade and his beautiful bride in the future just because of all the challenges they continued to work through. We talked about Lulit-The strong beautiful Godly woman she is. And Joe and the beautiful journey they’ve been on together.
Kay– I will never understand why God took you so soon. But I feel truly honored and blessed to have been able to spend the time we had together. Your wisdom and spiritual guidance-I will always cherish. Your work will continue to live on through so many you have touched.
~ Natasha Klutts - June 16, 2022
Heikes Family,
I was so sadden and broken to hear about the sudden passing of our dear friend Kay, my heart is still trying to make sense of this but I can only imagine what your hearts are going through. I'm so so sorry for your loss. From the moment I met Kay I knew and felt she was someone special and I knew she would always be a part of my life. From such a young age she was always there for me she was actually one of the first people I opened up to after the hard life we were dealing with, not only was she our counselor she was my best friend that also became family. 31 years later I'm so glad that y'all stayed in touch and allowed us to see your beautiful family grow. Kay thank you for opening your heart to us and allowing us to be a part of your life. I'll never forget the memories we made and the strength I gained with you by my side, the world has definitely lost a great woman with an amazing smile and beautiful heart. Rest In Peace my sweet friend. I love you. To Joe and the kids, I will continue to pray for you in this difficult time. May the Lord give you the strength you need to get through the days to come.
~ Juanita Cheatham - June 16, 2022
Dear Heikes Family-
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
I loved Kay so very much and will always cherish our friendship and memories.
She was an amazing woman- who cared for others with a joyful heart both personally and professionally.
She was so proud of you all and I loved hearing her talk about her beautiful family!
I can’t believe she is gone and I will miss her greatly.
She had such a positive impact on my life and my kids lives.
I will be forever grateful for knowing and loving her.
I love you all and please know that I am always here for you….
Love,
Nikki
Shay, Ty, and Mia
~ Nikki Bolte - June 16, 2022
Kay was a strong woman who I’ve looked up to all my life. Gentle wisdom with a compassionate heart - she was a core member of our family whose influence and presence will be dearly missed. She came to me often to talk about her sons, who she loved more than anything. She celebrated their achievements, confided in me with her motherly concerns and sought my advice as someone she hoped they could look up to. Kay saw things in me and my family that she admired, and never failed to tell me each time we were together. I love her, I will miss her, and I will never forget how she made me feel. I will strive to be the role model she knew I could be. To Joe, Wyatt, Josiah, Cade, and Lulit - you are surrounded by people who love you and carry Kay’s memory in their hearts. I love you all, and I’m so sorry for your loss.
~ Korab Eland - June 16, 2022
Dear Heikes Family-
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
I loved Kay so very much and will always cherish our friendship and memories.
She was an amazing woman- who cared for others with a joyful heart both personally and professionally.
She was so proud of you all and I loved hearing her talk about her beautiful family!
I can’t believe she is gone and I will miss her greatly.
She had such a positive impact on my life and my kids lives.
I will be forever grateful for knowing and loving her.
I love you all and please know that I am always here for you….
Love,
Nikki
Shay, Ty, and Mia
~ Nikki Bolte - June 16, 2022
I had the privilege of getting to know Kay at Lifeline Counseling! She was a bright spot and had so many creative ideas! I know she shared her vibrant faith with me and others! I am sorry she is gone physically from this Earth but her spirit remains and is now sharing in Eternal Life with Jesus and other saints! She will be loved for her faithfulness! Blessings to you, her family! We are glad to have known her!????????
~ Sarah Armour - June 16, 2022
I am so sorry to hear this news about Kay. I was so blessed to know her through Awana at Vista Baptist Church and through Black Bob Elementary. I enjoyed all of your children Wyatt, Josiah, Cade and Lulit and the opportunity to serve as their school nurse. Please tell them Nurse Dillard sends hugs and prayers. Kay and I had conversations about our kids and their God driven desires to serve others in foreign lands. Kay was such a shining light and cared so much for others. Prayers for you all for God to be with you and comfort you in this difficult time.
Thinking of you all!
Kristin Dillard
~ Kristin Dillard - June 16, 2022
She was so much fun and so compassionate and honest. She was a great friend and she really worked unendingly for those she advocated for. I am grateful to have known her and to have been a small part of her life and that she was part of our adoption journey. I am sure she will be rewarded for all her earthly sacrifices in the name of those who walked a hard journey. Her absence leaves a void that can't be filled. I remember that before my son reunited with his birth mom, she was willing to advocate that it wasn’t his best interest in court and he wasn’t even her patient yet. When he came back after it didn’t go well, she started seeing him as a patient and we were with her for 3 more years where she took time to help us in innumerable ways. I cannot tell you how amazing she was with all of us and someone said it so well when speaking of her “She was the Karen Pervis of Kansas City”. Her loss does not go unnoticed. She will remain forever in the hearts and minds of those who’s lives she touched and the ripples of her influence will go on to touch millions of lives.
~ Teresa Ostertag - June 16, 2022
When I first began Post-Adoption support work in Kansas, I had only heard of Kay Heikes, an incredible gift to her families and a legendary TBRI Practitioner. Her work with Mitzi was well known. A year later I was asked to co-present two workshops with Kay at the 2020 RE Conference. Kay was so well-respected in the community, that I was kind of intimidated to say yes. But I am so glad that I did. The preparatiion time was a joy; talking about our backgrounds and our work, brainstorming ideas to make the workshops the best possible. She was so humble, welcoming and radiated with a passion to support families who were raising "children from hard places". What a joy it was to teach with her for two workshops that year, and then we worked together again on the virtual RE Conference. Over the years I would call Kay for advice, insight and resources if I was working with a family that had extremely difficult issues. And I referred families to her for extra help. Her presence was a loving gift that cast out fear and provided all of us with comfort, feelings of safety and the insight/skills that we needed to do our work. Her death is a devastating loss to our post-adoption support community, the families, and we her colleagues. She made us better, our work stronger and our lives more joyful and encouraging.
~ Greg Rea - June 16, 2022
When I first began Post-Adoption support work in Kansas, I had only heard of Kay Heikes, an incredible gift to her families and a legendary TBRI Practitioner. Her work with Mitzi was well known. A year later I was asked to co-present two workshops with Kay at the 2020 RE Conference. Kay was so well-respected in the community, that I was kind of intimidated to say yes. But I am so glad that I did. The preparatiion time was a joy; talking about our backgrounds and our work, brainstorming ideas to make the workshops the best possible. She was so humble, welcoming and radiated with a passion to support families who were raising "children from hard places". What a joy it was to teach with her for two workshops that year, and then we worked together again on the virtual RE Conference. Over the years I would call Kay for advice, insight and resources if I was working with a family that had extremely difficult issues. And I referred families to her for extra help. Her presence was a loving gift that cast out fear and provided all of us with comfort, feelings of safety and the insight/skills that we needed to do our work. Her death is a devastating loss to our post-adoption support community, the families, and we her colleagues. She made us better, our work stronger and our lives more joyful and encouraging.
~ Greg Rea - June 16, 2022
To the Heikes Family,
We are heartbroken to hear of Kay’s passing. We were one of the families she worked with in her clinical practice and have been seeing her for the past two years with our children, Max and Gianna. It is not an overstatement to say that our family is forever changed because of her. Quite honestly, we don’t know where we would be as a family or as parents without her wisdom, perspective or the way she could so gently challenge us to meet the unique needs our children have. Her sweet voice will be forever in our heads and her legacy will continue to cultivate love and acceptance in our family for generations to come. We were so privileged to know her and so privileged to learn from her and we will miss her deeply. We promise to always keep her beautiful legacy and memory alive in our family. We’re holding you all close in prayer; may God bless you with strength and the assurance of His presence with you during this time of profound loss.
Matt & Marisa Argubright
~ Marisa Argubright - June 16, 2022
I don't know where to begin? and I don't want to believe this!
Kay, has done so much for my family, including the one I will never forget. when my daughter was not happy with oletha North she was the reason to move her out of that school by emailing the principal, and move her to
oletha Northwest where she wanted to go!! so many I could list but also her love for ???? Ethiopia! my prayers are with the family and her daughter!
I'm heart broken ??
~ TG Ambachew - June 16, 2022
Ms. Kay is a very special person in our family. She has been a teacher to my youngest son, a very beloved counselor to my oldest son and a precious friend to me. I am heartbroken for your loss. We got together last month and while we were walking around the miniature toy museum she was sharing stories about each one of you. She was so proud of her son in missions, so proud of the father and husband another son had become and beyond excited for her youngest son to marry his love. Joe, we talked about the apologetics class you were called to teach and the impact you have made. (Thank you for making that impact for my son.) There was never a doubt how much she loves you. Most of all, I remember her talking about her great love for Lulit. You brought her so much joy. Her unwavering faith in God is like few I have ever been blessed to meet and what brings peace in this terrible time. Thank you for sharing your wife and mama. She is such a gift!
~ Michelle Wallace - June 16, 2022
My thoughts and prayers for all. God has welcomed Kay into his loving arms.
~ Pat Sloan - June 16, 2022
Joe, Wyatt, Josiah, Cade, and Lulit, Bella and Dominique,
Our hearts are broken with yours. The world lost a beautiful kind soul, and leaves a gap in the hearts of many. She was my first friend, when we moved to Kansas. I still remember her excitement of meeting Ava and I in the 3rd grade classroom of Mrs Fiscus, during the teacher meet and greet. We instantly connected as did Ava and Lulit. I have many memories with Kay, which I will always treasure, but probably the most significant is during the bible study she organized. She had us imagine what it would be like to meet Jesus. She imagined him in a rocking chair on the front porch of the house and she sat beside him and started to talk to him. I am not sure why that stuck in my memory, but it has and it has brought me some peace knowing that she is with him now. I am grateful for the time we got to spend together over the past few years and especially the recent past weeks. We had a special friendship, one that I know, I will never have with anyone else. She was my spiritual sister in Christ. And I will miss her friendship and her wise words along with her encouragement.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am sorry that you are all feeling so much pain. We will keep the prayers coming for peace and comfort now and in the future.
Much love to you all!
Chris, Danielle, Lucy and Ava
~ Danielle Basham - June 16, 2022
We had a great honor to meet Kay and Joe a few years ago at Life Mission Church. We admire Joe and Kay for their humble and most of all approachable and caring hearts. We are from Argentina and it’s not easy find genuine and friends when we haven’t grown up in a new country, but Kay and Joe showed us that great friendships are possible in despise of culture and language barrier. Today, we have to let Kay go into Jesus arms and this world will miss her greatly!! But our new mission would be taking care of Joe and his family and we will! And making the most of our friendship! With sincere love. Ricardo and Susana Belvedere.
~ Susana and Ricardo Belvedere - June 16, 2022
Kay was our miracle in the midst of adoption. She came along side us and offered us grace, assurance and encouragement. She taught us how to better communicate with, guide and love our children. She shared stories of her own children that helped us see the light in our own. We have 2 adopted sons and 3 bio children. She was able to share her own story with us to help us better navigate our story for our childrens sake. Kay was the light in a dark place for us. She gave us so much, we could never express in words how much she means to our family. I believe Kay was one of Gods angels, sent to earth! I know the moment she went to be with our Heavenly Father, he hugged her and said Well Done my good and faithful servant, well done Kay. Until we meet again! I know our son Samuel is with with you in heaven, we are grateful.
~ Jana Compton - June 16, 2022
Dear Joe, Wyatt, Josiah, Cade and Lulit - I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. May God's love and grace support you. You all are in our prayers.
Mike McMullen
~ Mike McMullen - June 15, 2022
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